Tips to designing a bespoke, memorable funeral – an event worth reminiscing
Nowadays, more and more people are using funeral memorials to celebrate life. For the most part, memorials are done to remember someone and gives us a chance to reflect on the life they have lived. Whether you are planning for someone else’s funeral or your own, there are many ways to celebrate a memorial and personalise it in a way that best represents who you are or who the person is. It’s important to note that you’re not limited to the known way of doing things. When it comes to funerals today, you can start your own traditions.
Celebrating Lives Through Funeral Memorials
Traditionally, the success of a memorial relied on how simple and organised the funeral service is. For family members, every detail matters — from the music being played throughout the service, to the right flowers being used and displayed, and the powerful eulogy shared by family and friends.
Families who want to keep the funeral memorial light and meaningful may choose to showcase home videos and slideshows of their loved ones to reminisce the good old times. Some may opt to do away with the traditional service completely and come up with their own bespoke way to say goodbye.
While there is no right or wrong way to conduct a memorial, there are certain important aspects that help make them as meaningful and as memorable as possible.
What we’ve found today is that many families are opting for a more personalised and customised approach to funeral memorials, so they become more than just a service, but a celebration of life that they can look back to.
We’ll explore what some of these options are in more detail below.
Something to Contribute To
A great way to celebrate the life of a loved one while involving family and close friends is by setting up a memory table. A memory table gives you a visual representation of a life well lived, highlighting important life events and memorable tokens of your loved ones. All you need is to set up a special table where family members and close friends can put in little objects and mementos that remind them of your loved one who has passed on. These can include old photographs, photo albums, medals and awards, heirlooms, trinkets, and many other meaningful objects that visually highlight the unique life.
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Memory stones that are engraved with the loved one’s name or a text that reads “in memory of’ can also be done as visual reminders of the person. These can be handed out during or after the service and can be a displayed on shelves at home along with other family photos.
Something to Take Home
Special memorabilia such as pocket charms and candles can serve as wonderful giveaways as they give mourning families a sense of comfort in having something to hold on to —a physical object they can keep at home or carry with them, reminding them of that special person in their lives. Pocket charms can be given to every member in the family or even extended families and friends who mean the most to you, or the person who has passed. Pocket charms can have keychains as well, which make them perfect to always carry around.
Something to Grow
Some families take comfort in having something to care for. The use of seeds, plants or succulents, which represent life, can be another way to commemorate the passing of a loved one or to give as a gift in funerals. Instead of flowers, sympathy and memorial plants can serve as a tribute to a well-lived and long life even after the funeral service is over.
And because green plants symbolise life, it makes them ideal to show your respect to the family. Some great choices are white flowering plants such as Gardenias, Azaleas, Peace Lilies, and Orchids.
Indoor green plants can also be great, and unlike flowers can last for years to come. They are easy to care for and can look great in the home environment. Some examples are topiaries, bonsais, lucky bean plants, and even herbs.
Something to Experience
Another great way to celebrate someone’s life is through a remembrance video that showcases their important life events and milestones. You don’t have to worry too much about the challenge of editing videos. In these family events, a collection of home videos are perfect as they are candid and more personal.
We’ve even seen some people creating videos of themselves for a pre-planned funeral, where they take the time to thank family and friends or leave important messages for those they love. And it makes perfect sense because, more than anything, people value being able to say what they need to say to the people they love, which is why they choose to do this ahead of time.
Setting a theme allows you to personalise funerals even further. And though it may sound a little odd at first, this can actually make planning a lot easier in terms of outlining the activities, choosing the food, and the music for the memorial. No event, and in this case, a memorial will ever truly be successful without structure. A theme gives you just that and gives you a code by which to do things by — making it easier for the guests to follow through as well.
You can personalise themes according to the life of your loved one. Some examples you can use as a guide are military honour themes, a pilot and hangar theme, an art or spoken word poetry theme for someone who is creative, or a music event or even a gig where people can play their favourite music.
Whichever theme you choose, you can trust that doing so allows you to celebrate your life or someone else’s in a way that stays true to who they are.
A customised funeral to reflect a unique life
Should you choose it, funerals don’t have to be dark and dreary. Personalisation is key to making it as solemn and as memorable as possible, and in a way that fits the needs of your family best. With a little creativity and some thought put into it, you can make funeral memorials into an event worth reminiscing with all the special people in your life.
At Olsens Funerals, we help you pre-plan funerals and tailor memorial services to reflect your needs. We can help you plan a funeral that is bespoke to your wishes and your family’s preferences, so you