Mothers Day is a time to celebrate with our families. However, for some, it is time to pause and think about the mothers we lost. The strong women who have built, lead, grown and nurtured their own families but are no longer around to love and be loved. How can we remember Mum on Mothers Day?
Mothers are jugglers, first aid officers, diplomats, mediators, friends, emotional eiderdowns of sorts, a place of soft warm hugs; they are often a bright ray of sunshine in our lives. Parenthood by definition is a selfless act and there are endless words devoted to describing the role mothers play in our lives.
Revelries of mothers and motherhood can be traced back to the ancient Greeks and Romans, who held festivals in honour of the mother goddesses. The clearest modern example for Mothers Day is the early Christian festival known as “Mothering Sunday.”
Eventually, the Mothering Sunday tradition shifted into a more secular holiday, children would present their mothers with flowers and other tokens of gratitude and appreciation. In Australia, the tradition of gift-giving to Mothers began in 1924 and now celebrated annually on the second Sunday in May when we can lavish mum with flowers, cards and other gifts.
Mothers Day without Mum
When a loved one passes away we can never really be prepared for the feelings of loss and grief. For many, it can be a real struggle to navigate this new direction without our mum beside us.
Mothers Day, much like Christmas and Birthdays, can be an emotional minefield. Anything from the simple smell of a memorable perfume to a similar sounding voice in the distant can take us back to that still, raw reality. It can be difficult to understand how to move forward as everyone else chatters away about their own Mothers day.
Something important to remember: just because she is gone, it doesn’t mean it is goodbye.
I cannot forget my Mother. She is my bridge. When I needed to get across,
she steadied herself long enough for me to run across safely. Renita Weems
Mothers Day Remembrance Service
Every year, Olsens Funerals co-ordinates a Mother’s Day service to provide support, love, hope and an opportunity to honour the relationship between Mother and Child. We invite you to join this free and open service, this is a time for all those to come who have lost their mothers and remember the beautiful gifts they left us in their legacy of love.
We have held this beautiful, secular service for over 15 years. Today, we hold the service in Woronora Memorial Park chapel in Sutherland. During the service, we ask families to write some words to their Mums during the service, these notes are placed on the Tree of Hope and later cremated, placed in a container with the year-date and buried in the Mothers day Memorial Garden, located in the courtyard of the South Chapel.
So, if you find yourself a little lost and missing your Mother, why not join us on next Mothers Day, as we remember our Mothers that have passed, support each other and look at the memories they have left with us.
To describe my Mother would be to write about a hurricane in its perfect power.
or the climbing, falling colours of a rainbow. Maya Angelou